I never really feared death, call me crazy, call me irreverent, but I experienced 'loss of life' close to my family a lot as a kid and I think it instilled an acceptance in me; you live, then you "go to a better place"... that is what they always say right? However, as an adult, it becomes clear to me why death is such a big deal... you have so much more to loose, so much more to leave behind (and no I do not mean the new Nick Cage movie...).
Drew and I have been watching the Sopranos lately and (obviously) there is a lot of death involved. What is odd to me is how lightly it is handled 90% of the time; "People die, so whaaat?! Fu-get a-bow-dit". To keep with the TV theme, when Denny dies (on Grey's Anatomy) Izzie GREAVES, they sit shiva, they remember him... honor his memory. I am also currently elbow deep into season 2 of Scandal (maybe the beginning of season 3?... who can tell Netflix just lets um roll on when I'm cleaning) and there is a character who dies, but in her death she is most concerned about how she will be remembered... and THAT is the crux of it I think-
How will you be remembered? How will I?
Morbid? Sure... but also really really liberating.
A few weeks ago two great men passed away, Oscar de la Renta and Ben Bradley (18 time Pulitzer Prize winning Washington Post Journalist). We, as a nation, pause briefly in their honor and revel in the wake they left behind. They created, revolutionized, pushed, discovered, altered our world for the better and their legacy will live on long after they are gone.
Will yours? Will mine?
This is not meant to make you (or me) feel bad about your (my)self... you are brilliant, you are talented, you ( I ) have greatness inside of you (me)... are you ( am I ) doing anything about it? Are you (am I) living a life to be remembered? To be honored?
Maybe I have been watching too many dia de los muertos tutorials on youtube... maybe all the halloween decor in my neighborhood was going to my head when I wrote this... whatever the case may be, LIVE your life, honor those you lost by living the best life you know how... because that is all you can do, you can choose, I can CHOOSE how we will live and how we will (one day) be remembered.
*As I mentioned the other day... you are impressive... live a life to reflect that.*