It’s not that I don’t know what I like or what I want, I am more so subconsciously terrified that I am not picking the very best thing. I realize, millions feel this way, but humor me for one moment. In a world filled with so many options, people no longer have just A and B to choose between, but A, B, C, D, E, F, and occasionally even G. It’s a blood bath deciding where to go eat dinner. You get a migraine from getting dressed in the morning. Not to mention all the big life choices, such as, but not limited to:
Who will I marry? (I got that one out of the way, but damn, all of you still in singledom, stay strong)
Where will I live?
What will I do with my life?
Will I have kids? Will I adopt? Do I even want kids?
What makes me happy? How do I get there?
What will I eat for breakfast!?
The list is endless. Our lives are comprised of decision, it’s constant, vibrating through our very spirits, rattling our souls. Barry Schwartz did a Ted Talk on the paradox of choice (you guys, I am addicted to Ted and you should be too!), the first bit, though fascinating you could skip over. The last half however, is solid gold. He talks about how “back in the day” you would go to the store buy jeans that fit terribly, were uncomfortable even, but given enough time and washings they became ok (never great). Now a days however, when you go to the store, you are required to decide between bootcut, straight, comfort fit, etc. He surmises that all of the choice only makes us unhappy because we constantly question ourselves. “Did I get the right pair? What if there were better jeans somewhere else and I missed out on getting those?”.
We break down every action, tearing apart the could be joy in our lives.
When faced with major life choices do we shut down? Do we close our eyes, jump, and hope for it all to turn out ok? Though not ideal, this maybe be the best option. Deciding to move forward, no matter the consequence, no regret allowed, no turning back.
Saying to the world, this is where I am, this is who I will be…at least for now. Next week however, I may change my mind.