Can I tell you something? I need you to promise not to hate me... deal? Ok.
You are strong and independent and wonderful and talented and brave and beautiful BUT you can't do it all on your own... I can't do it all on my own. People NEED people (thanks Babs for that gem). We are independent creatures who are so very... dependent.
Why is there such a stigma about asking for help?
Why are we so afraid of NEEDING other people?!
Fact- We need to share in experiences with people. It builds the stories which make up the core of who we are, they are the foundation we stand upon. Having the phrase, "remember that time" in common with people builds relationships and fuses paths. A 'common' story bonds you to people, it allows for natural vulnerability and connection.
I have realized (over the years) that I am really bad at asking questions (especially when I don't understand something) and asking for help falls into the same boat. I fear appearing stupid (my therapist could unpack that for hours I am sure... if I had a therapist that is). Rationally I know that if I never risk appearing stupid I will never learn, which limits my opportunities for growth (and connection). Obviously this is a problem I am working on but it is a process and I am learning as I go (if I could apply all of the space in my brain dedicated to being 'self aware' to something like... learning... I would be the next Einstein I swear!). I think the key is to realize that sometimes you just have to put yourself out there, risk feeling stupid, risk being vulnerable, people will take you by surprise with how they respond; and you may just take yourself by surprise with the connections you make.
After all-"It takes a village"
If we share with our communities, if we give and receive, with time, we will become stronger and more able to support one another. This idea is not new.
The word Community originated between 1325-1375 from the Latin commūnitās, equivalent to commūni or common. Communities are founded out of having a common bond, a common thread, a common proximity; they are fundamental factor to human behavior and evolution. Tribes existed for a reason, there is safety in numbers sure... but there is also connection, warmth, friendship, romance, hope, and support. We long to be connected... we desire to share.
"Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much"
So what do you say? Should we do this thing called life? Don't worry I'm not one knee here... I'm just saying... Let's ask questions, let's invest into our communities, we have more in common than you know and I promise it will be worth it.