Is it just me? Or is taking a compliment one of the hardest things to do!? I know I have talked about this before... but it is still relevant ok!?
We sheepishly say, 'thank you' or 'you are really kind for saying that' or 'nahhhhhhh'.... We come up with ways to, essentially, dodge the bullet of kindness (if the compliment is genuine that is). Why? Why are we so 'ashamed' of who we are and the things we have done?
Rob Bell addressed this in his most recent RobCast on "Changing the Tapes" (the tapes which lie to us and tell us we are worthless, fake, and a failure... etc.). He spoke of this voice, the one which denies the acceptance of grace and kindness, as being a miser robbing us of joy and goodness... he then made this point, "Some one is paying you a compliment because you deserve it". *AHHHHHHHHHHHHH* (that is the sound of the heavens parting and light erupting from the sky).
YOU ARE WORTH IT!
I grew up thinking that compliments were bad... and complimenting yourself (let alone liking yourself, thinking you were beautiful/talented/special in any way) was a bad thing... it made you selfish and haughty to accept compliments (or be proud of yourself). It is like that line in mean girls:
"You're really pretty."
"So you agree? You think your pretty?" (Said by Regina with judgement in her voice).
But you guys! Rob is right, people are complimenting you BECAUSE you are WORTH complimenting! You did something of note, you are beautiful, skilled, and exceptional. And do you know what!? You are allowed to think those things about yourself to. Be a little self absorbed for one minute and think- "I am f*&^ing awesome! I am beautiful! I am WORTHY! I am LOVED! and I am GOOD for the people around me." We often dwell on the things we aren't and the things we can not do, why? Because those are they tapes we have learned to play... let us, today, for one minute try and change that.
So go on, accept that compliment; you may be surprised by the affect positive affirmations/thinking has on every other facet of your life.
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**Image is a behind the scenes moment I captured on a shoot for Darling Magazines Spring issue which is out now! Francesca, Haley and I kicked ass on this one if I do say so myself (working on accepting compliments you guys... it is happening!)