Comparison may be the thief of joy, but expectations robs us of happiness. Don't you agree?
My personality suffers from being one of unvoiced expectations, which is a rather lousy character trait... to be fair it falls on the negative side of the scale (all personalities have positive and negative sides, like positive and negative ions, they balance each other out or tip to one side)... regardless, it is something I deal with constantly. If plans change I have a hard time adjusting because I was expecting things to go a certain way. I plan entire interactions in my head like a character on TV, I am Ally McBeal in the real world... kind of... ok not really, but you know what I mean.
According to Drew, "having expectations is a passive way of living, you are waiting for things to come to you. Unless communicated well, expectations are destructive. Standards on the other hand are proactive. If you stand for something, you act a certain way, you do certain things... you aren't just letting things happen or not happen to you."
When asked about inpactful advice Iris Apfel responded-
"My father told me once not to expect anything from anybody so I wouldn't be disappointed. If somebody was nice and did nice things for me I should be overjoyed, but I shouldn't go through life expecting it, which is very good advice."
When I left for Japan I tried my best to leave all of my expectations at home... and you guys I'm so glad that I did! Tokyo was not at all what I expected. It was so much MORE than I expected. By leaving my expectations behind me I was able to engage more with what was happening around me. I stopped expecting people, places, things to be (act, become) a certain way and instead chose to do things, see things, experience things with intention. It made me wonder why I don't do this more at home!
I have so many stories, photos, and moments to unpack (also... luggage but that can wait). Tokyo was truly inspiring, it had so many different nooks and alleys to get lost in, the fashion was B-A-N-A-N-A-S and the people I worked along side were so kind- leaving me truly overjoyed. It was a long and exhausting trip, but I am so thankful to have been a part of it.
Right now my jet lagged brain is still recovering so I will leave the story here...there will be a full recap later this week packed with stories of getting lost, mystical experiences, and robot dance parties (only in Tokyo am I right!?).
Good to see you all again! Hope you have been well.