A while back a friend of mine said to me, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” something I had heard many times before, but never really gave much thought about until recently. Our world is comprised of comparison, so I assumed it was normal to view things with a self criticizing lens. What critics won’t tell you is that, not only does it sap your joy, it preys on your deep seeded self doubt and personal flaws. It turns your crooked tooth into a glaring eye sore, your weight loss into a challenge for more, your talents become lacking, your triumphs never feel like they are enough. The things that should bring you self pride and confidence quickly crumple around you, falling to ruin; but only if we let them.
I am lucky enough to know amazing, talented, and gifted photographers, artists, designers, and visionaries who have all, at one time or another, confided that they feel lacking… they feel like they have failed. The world around them views their work as beautiful, inspiring, accomplishments, but they themselves see what it’s not, instead of the incredible, powerful, thing that it is. I won’t lie, I am absolutely 120% in the same boat. I constantly second guess my talents and abilities… not to mention my looks! Sweet lord above, the number of times I have deflected compliments because I feel I am undeserving of peoples kind words and accolades! Not that I receive rave review or have throngs of suiters flocking to my door (come now gentlemen, I am a married woman), but I get incredibly awkward when someone pays me a compliment in any form. Drew is the same way. He is, I shit you not, the most talented man I know… and as I mentioned before, I know a lot of talented people. Drew can make anything he puts his mind to simply with the flourish of his wrist. The letter forms that flow from the tip of his pen are so beautiful, so inspiring, so fluid, it’s stupid (stupid amazing that is).
As a creative spirits we tend to analyze everything and play devils advocate, almost, always. The critics words reverberate through our beings and shake us to the core, until we are left, shells of the great thing we could become. How then, do those who become great over come this? Truthfully, I don’t think they do… truthfully, I think they learn to stop comparing themselves to others, and daily work on being okay with the faults they have, talents they lack, negative size they will never be, and say, “I am who I am… and that is enough…”