How long has it been since you introduced yourself... to yourself? 95% of you just audibly said "huh?" I know, it sounds strange, you are you so how could you not KNOW yourself. Well, to be honest, living, being in relationships, jobs, 'fitting in', etc. can all turn us into a version of ourselves that may not be a true depiction of who we actually are. The tragedy is, most of us are too busy to even notice that we have lost touch with our own selves.
You would be surprised at how many people have no idea what they actually need in life. What restores them. What makes them truly feel comfort or love. Most people think that being 'busy' is the capstone of a well lived life and that they can sleep when they are dead because they MUST crush every ounce of energy out of every waking moment.
News flash- this is exhausting and it is killing us.
Dramatic? Perhaps. True? Most definitely.
Young people are getting old people ailments and diseases. We are most stressed, more anxious, more neurotic than our parents generation. A while back, for example, I asked my grandmother if moving from California to Michigan as a young mother and wife (away from her friends and family) was stressful... she got a quizzical look on her face and said, "you know, I honestly didn't think about it. It was what was happening and needed to be done, so you make the most out of it."
Today I have a challenge for you. Set a timer for ten minutes (if that stresses you out, do five). Sit in a quite place, away from other people (or if you are in public just put in head phones) and ask yourself, "What do I need?" "What restores and nourishes me?" "What do I find relaxing?" and lastly, "How can I make time for these things?" .
I have been working through these things as of late and have been both surprised and underwhelmed by the responses I wrote down.
I need alone time. I need rest. I need to cook for people and share in good meals, great wine and conversation around the dinner table. I need to explore. I need good coffee (duh). I need to take time to care for myself. I need to feel heard. I need to journal so that I can hear myself.
The list goes on, but I shan't boar you with the details at this time.
Take care of yourselves kids and listen to your inner voice from time to time, you might just be amazed at what you learn.
*ps its snowing in Denver rn... best ever.