I came across this amazing video on twitter the other day of the 'Ideal Woman' throughout history. The impact it left caught me off guard. It isn't exact and it is very surface level, but I couldn't help but feel... moved by the vast portrayal of the feminine form. It got me thinking-
Do we actually want to be ideal and why?
Economy, fashion, status, all effect the ideal... in 'the olden days' how you dressed, what size you were, said something about your economic standing, but what do they say now? Does a 'thigh gap' actually improve your life? Will having Kimmy Ks Ass (yes it needs a capital A) or Cara Delevinges eye brows make you more desirable? 90% of how we look is how we feel, how we carry our selves. Culture has done a number on ones ability to feel confident/sexy/enough in their own skin, as they are (as we, me, you, I, am/are). We feel the constant pressure to BE a certain way, to FIT a projected 'ideal'. Guess what-
You are ideal.
You ARE someones ideal, so why not be your own ideal?!
As with everything, there are two sides which is rather wonderful (don't you agree?). Extreme pressure (such as the pressures of idealism) forces things to change. There are 'real beauty' movements cropping up everywhere. There are models who defy the norm and push the boundaries by standing up and saying 'I am not a size zero, I have hips, I have boobs, I have a BODY, and I am BEAUTIFUL!' it is inspiring and motivating. Just because you aren't a sample size, just because you don't have straight teeth, just because you can't afford designer clothes, does not make you any less worthy of feeling whole and 'ideal'.
You are beautiful and radiant and no one can take that away from you. So stand tall, hold yourself with pride and grace, because you are perfect just the way you are.
*This is Melissa, she is a drop dead gorgeous model who I have worked with multiple times. I snapped this photo while we were shooting a piece for Darling Magazine on sexuality last summer... Melissa and Darling are out to change the world and I am so proud to have been apart of their movement.