I was scrolling through one of my favorite fashion blogs the other day, and they aren’t shy when it comes to posting, well, tasteful nudes, shall we say. Anyways, these photos spanned the gambit, coy, playful, super sexy, somewhat sexy, artistic, you name it, they had it. Which led me then to wonder, all of these women are butt-a$$ naked in front of a camera and comfortable with it… how!? All of the women were beautiful, sure, but not all of them oozed sexual energy (something that comes from a lack of confidence… or at least that’s what ‘normal’ women say to make themselves feel better) and most of the images didn’t come across derogatory, they simply seemed confident in their own skin. That takes balls! I mean, being comfortable with your body is one thing, but being genuinely confident enough not to emit slut rays is next level.
I then began to think about how little confidence many women (myself included) have when they are FULLY CLOTHED! I mean, we can literally change how people view us based on our attire, which is intimidating enough, I can’t even imagine how awkward I would be if I felt people were judging my literal, unclothed, self. This connects to the idea of being emotionally naked and open, a concept so intimidating it will make the most externally confident people contract a case of hyperhidrosis from fear of exposure (it will make them sweat like a prostitute in church).
Having genuine confidence stems from having genuine vulnerability; strength from weakness in a sense. People are like icebergs, most of our “mass” is below the surface, leaving only part of ourselves exposed to the elements that can help or harm us.
Having the courage to show people who you really are may take time. But little by little, the layers will fall away, and you be left, naked, and unafraid*.
*I for the time being, however, feel right at home, shrouded in my parka… it is only Fall though, so perhaps is time to shed a few layers of my own.