Wrap your fingers around a hot cup of coffee, pull your favorite blanket around your shoulders, light a candle, take a deep breath.
I recently wrote about being 'cozy', a feeling essential to surviving/enjoying this time of year (though it makes it particularly hard to get out of bed in the morning). Being cozy and finding comfort can go hand in hand, but today I want to separate the two and look at how/why we seek comfort.
How do you comfort yourself? If you are like me, some days it is by talking to a friend and sipping a hot cup of tea, other days it is eating a bag of chips while drinking a bottle of wine... that being said, I have started to realize that there (as with so many other things) are healthy and unhealthy ways of going about finding comfort.
Unhealthy- Eating your feeling
I do this. If I am upset I just want to eat my body weight in junk. Empty calories filling up all the empty space inside... or something like that. The truth is, this doesn't work, it will only make you feel guilty and spoil your dinner.
Healthy- Getting out.
Taking a walk around the neighborhood or going to a place I feel at home (outside of my home) helps me clear my head, it soothes my spirit and refreshes the day. Removing yourself from the moment allows you to physically/emotionally have space, which is so important to finding where you are actually at inside and allows you to figure out what it is you really need to find resolution/peace/hope etc.
Unhealthy- Over sharing
This is something we all do. We are hurting and want to be comforted so we spill our emotional baggage to any (and everyone) who will listen. As long as you aren't spilling your guts all over social media (like... a new facebook update every 5 minutes style) we are square.
Healthy- Sharing with those you love
Sharing is a good thing, especially when it is limited to a select few people who can (actually) speak into your life, sharing with people who know you, understand you, and love you no matter what will help bring light and love into your surroundings.
Unhealthy- Refusing to get out of bed
Remaining in bed means you are giving the power over to the gremlins who threaten to destroy you. First things first, get up, that little victory can launch you into winning the war
Taking a break to rest your mind, breath, read, meditate, etc. will make a huge impact on your mental state. Deep breathing is so healing (seriously) and it is amazing to me how much it really helps.
I am not a doctor. I am not an expert. However, I am a person who lives in a world with unnatural stresses and pressure. We all face struggle (no matter the size) and we all need to find comfort from time to time.
I wish you well my dear readers. May your hearts find comfort today.